Choose Supportive Friends

🤝 How to Choose Supportive Friends

1. Look for Alignment, Not Just History

Many friendships are built on shared pasts—school, work, or old neighborhoods. But supportive friendships are built on shared values and visions. Ask yourself:

• Do they support your goals, even if they don’t fully understand them?
• Are they excited when you grow, or do they feel threatened?
• Do they encourage your creativity and ambition?

If someone consistently cheers you on, challenges you to be better, and respects your journey, that’s a keeper.

2. Observe Their Energy

Supportive friends leave you feeling energized, not depleted. Pay attention to:

• How you feel after spending time with them
• Whether they listen without judgment
• If they celebrate your wins without comparison

Energy doesn’t lie. If someone consistently drains you, it’s worth reevaluating how much access they have to your inner world.

3. Choose Growth-Oriented People

Surround yourself with people who are also on a journey of self-improvement. They don’t have to be in the same niche or industry, but they should:

• Be open to learning and evolving
• Take responsibility for their lives
• Encourage you to do the same

Growth-minded friends won’t resent your progress—they’ll be inspired by it.

4. Lead with Compassion, Not Obligation

Dr. Kareem Samhouri puts it beautifully: “Shift focus, but don’t sever ties.” You don’t have to cut people off to grow—you just need to be intentional about where your energy goes. You can:

• Love someone and still limit their influence
• Be kind without compromising your values
• Support others without sacrificing your momentum

This is especially true with family. You can be a guide by living your truth and letting your actions speak louder than advice.

5. Use the “Inspiration Test”

Ask yourself: Does this person inspire me to be better? If the answer is yes, they belong in your circle. If not, it doesn’t mean they’re bad—it just means they may not be the right fit for your inner circle right now.